So far my experience with Three Day Rule (with Callie as my Matchmaker) has been exactly what I hoped for. I've met five matches, and all were smart, funny, caring, successful women who were looking for the same things from a relationship as I am.
Of course, Three Day Rule is a premium service at a premium price point, so it's worth thinking deeply about what they provide and whether that fits with your personal needs.
First, and to me most important: Three Day Rule by its nature ensures that everyone you meet is truly looking for a serious relationship. As Callie told me when we first met, "Nobody goes to a Matchmaker for a one-night stand." Every person you meet is trying to find their long-term partner, and they're being deliberate and intentional in their efforts.
Second, Three Day Rule takes all of the effort out of finding great first dates. No messaging on apps, no chatting up strangers at bars. Your Matchmaker provides you with a potential date's photo and background info, you reach out if you're interested, and boom, you're on a date with someone terrific. In essence, Three Day Rule lets you outsource all of the emotional and logistical work of "pre-dating."
Third, Three Day Rule gives you access to a different pool of single people than you'll find on apps. Three Day Rule's pool isn't necessarily "better," but it's distinct in a way that expands your range of opportunities. It includes, for one thing, people who just don't feel comfortable using dating apps.
Fourth, your Matchmaker quickly becomes a confidant and adviser. If you've got an awkward question about how to handle an early-relationship quandary, your Matchmaker can point you in the right direction with empathy and experience. Plus, your Matchmaker will (unless you ask otherwise) reach out to each match for feedback after the first date, which can help clear up those uncertain moments when you're not sure whether a connection was mutual.
Fifth, a Matchmaker can filter for your preferences in a much more nuanced way than an app. You can't tell an app, "Well, I'd prefer someone between the ages of 32 and 37, but I'm open to someone younger if they're really settled in their life." A Matchmaker can handle that request easily, as well as similar subtleties around religion, education, and so on.
Finally, yes, I'm a believer in Matchmaker's intuition. I truly do think Callie is zeroing in on the characteristics that matter most to me, even the ones that I can't fully describe myself.
It goes without saying that Matchmakers are not magicians. While each woman I've met through Three Day Rule has struck me as a genuinely great catch for someone, only about half felt potentially right for me... and even if Three Day Rule finds you someone wonderful, chemistry and timing and luck are still factors.
Still, in my six months with Three Day Rule, I've met as many women whom I felt truly excited about as I did in my last two or three years of online dating, and I did it while spending far less time and energy thinking about finding dates. If that's what you're looking for, and if you can afford the fairly steep price of admission, then I think you'll find Three Day Rule to be a great fit.
One last thought. If you're unsure of whether Three Day Rule is right for you, I'd say definitely join their free pool. That'll give you the chance to meet a Matchmaker, and I for one found that initial meeting to be fun, thought-provoking, and free from any sales pressure. Even if I hadn't signed up for Three Day Rule's services, I still would have been grateful for that conversation.
Theo, 35